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YOUR CHILDREN, NOT YOUR OWN

  It is a common yet flawed assumption that children belong to their parents. Many, particularly in African societies, operate under the illusion that biological connection equals ownership. But let us pause for a moment and reflect – who among us can claim ownership of another’s soul? Who among us chose their own entry into this world? The truth is as old as time itself: we do not own our children; they are God’s, lent to us for a time, to be raised and nurtured, not possessed and manipulated. The Divine Custodianship of Parenthood Children are not commodities to be controlled, coerced, or commanded at will. They are gifts from the Almighty, entrusted into our care for a fleeting season. Psalm 127:3 reminds us, “Lo, children are a heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” The language is clear: they are a heritage, not an acquisition. Parents are custodians, not owners. In Genesis, when God blessed humanity with the ability to multiply, He did not ...

OUTSIDE THE GOLD CIRCLE– A Captivating Journey into the Margins of Power



 Please, 🙏 follow and click on this link: https://www.iwemi.com/outside-the-gold-circle, and buy  or share: OUTSIDE THE GOLD CIRCLE – A Captivating Journey into the Margins of Power                By Emmanuel Okom

In Outside the Gold Circle, Emmanuel Okom crafts an unforgettable tale of longing, legacy, and the silent war between tradition and progress. Set in the fictional village of Inibosinbo, the novel is a moving exploration of how ordinary people, trapped outside systems of power, wealth, privilege and opportunity - the metaphorical "gold circle" - fight for relevance in a world that demands they remain voiceless.At the heart of the story is Ukaani Irikwom, a weathered but dignified farmer and ex-Biafran soldier whose deepest desire is to see his son, Lucky, rise beyond the reach of village drudgery. But five years after graduation, Lucky remains jobless—an echo of a generation betrayed by a republic that promises progress but perpetuates inequality.  Thus, by hook or crook,  “They must enter it, or their generation would pass away again into failure, and their families would wait for another set of messiahs for another generation to come.”The “gold circle” is not merely an economic status - it is a symbol of power, influence, and belonging in a society where merit is often smothered by nepotism. Okom’s narrative traverses complex terrains of identity, gender, cultural expectations, and political critique. 

              THEMES EXPLORED 

1. The Struggles of the Common Man:   Ukaani Irikwom is the embodiment of the Nigerian everyman - drenched in honest sweat, broken by systems beyond his control, yet unyielding in his desire to leave a better legacy. He asked himself in one of those thoughtful moments: “Was it easy giving him a university education? No,” he almost answered aloud. “I had to plead with my first and second daughters who are his half-sisters to help every semester…”

2. Education as a Burdened Promise:  The novel challenges the myth of education as a great equalizer. Lucky’s degree becomes a source of heartache rather than hope. “It is not normal!” Ukaani Irikwom laments - a father betrayed by the system he tried to believe in.

3. Intergenerational and Gender Tensions:  Mothers, sons, and daughters all carry the cross of a society in flux. Wives like Unye Iwule and Unye Abongos fight to hold broken dreams together, while their sons slip into delinquency or despair.    “If a man seeks his lost coin in a hole full of scorpions, he should expect to be stung,” is said to reflect the consequences of delinquency.

4. The culture of Marriage, and Masculinity:  Marriage, in this world, is transactional and often strategic. Wrestling matches double as courtship rituals. Strength and fertility are currency. A man wins a wife by conquering another in some wrestling matches. Hence: “Strength and bravery were considered very noble and essential qualities of the man in Inibosinbo village.”

5. Marriage and the Economics of Love:  Marriage in Outside the Gold Circle is not a simple union of love - it is a battlefield where tradition, financial status, and gender expectations clash. Lucky Irikwom, though educated and willing, cannot afford the economic cost of marrying his longtime fiancée, Unyi, due to his low-paying teaching job. In a painful twist of fate, Unyi - pressured by time, expectations, and survival - decides to marry a richer man from the city. This betrayal is not born out of malice but out of the crushing reality of poverty. Lucky's romantic dreams are swallowed by a system that values wealth over love, forcing both partners into unwanted outcomes. The novel mourns how economic disenfranchisement turns love into luxury: “So it means that, without a good job nowadays, a full-fledged man would never marry? And Ukaani Irikwom replies, "The new generation does not think decently the way you do. They call fornication life. And the more they stay outside marriage, the more they enjoy it. They call it rocking life… They are prepared to go on fornicating until they have all the money in the world, before they would settle down to marriage.” Through this raw and unfiltered dialogue between Lucky’s mother and father, the novel painfully exposes how marriage, once a communal celebration of union, has become an exclusive ritual for the economically privileged.

6. Cultural Satire and Comic Relief: Characters like the half-mad Inanobi, who raped his own mother and lives in tragicomic squalour, offer biting satire and serve as cautionary figures. The absurd becomes prophetic in Okom’s world. Hence: “He (Inanobi) was a mixture of madness and sanity; something worse than madness…”

7. The Power of Fables: Stories within the Story:  In classic African oral tradition, Outside the Gold Circle enriches its narrative with moral-laden fables and allegorical tales told by parents to children and elders to peers. These embedded stories - such as the tale of Lady Crab, her idle husband Mr. Crab, and the hardworking second wife - mirror the novel’s larger themes of self-reliance, betrayal, and delayed justice. These fables are not just folklore; they serve as sharp commentaries on human choices and communal values, delivered with humour and gravity alike.  Hence :  “Lady Crab eyed her mate’s food until her eyes became askew.” This line, from a mother’s cautionary tale to her sons, encapsulates the dangers of idleness and envy - a recurring caution across generations in the novel. Fables like this deepen the novel’s texture and deliver ancestral wisdom in vibrant, unforgettable strokes.

8. A People on the Margins:  With vivid imagery and local idioms, Okom plunges readers into the rituals, belief systems, and contradictions of village life. Readers are immersed in market days, palm wine parlours, local oracles, and traditional festivals—all portrayed with both affection and critical eye.      Yet beneath the folklore and charm lies a sobering meditation on injustice, both historical and systemic. Outside the Gold Circle is a poignant reflection on how the legacies of colonialism, war, and corrupt governance continue to shape lives in post-colonial Africa.

Why You Must Read This Book:

If you have ever asked why the “best” people never seem to rise, or why systems seem rigged against the purest of hopes, this novel will speak to you.It is not just a story. It is a mirror, a lament, and a call to conscience. 

*Buy Outside the Gold Circle today on IWEMI Publishers and join the journey of a father, a son, and a people who dared to dream—outside, but not defeated.

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